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Lundy [Bancroft], author of WHY DOES HE DO THAT?, points out that one of the abusers most commonly used tactics is to try to convince you and the people around you that you are crazy”.
Do not fall for their unprofessional diagnosis. Do not try to convince him or other people who are uneducated enough to believe him that they are incorrect. Let them believe what they want. Not only is this your opportunity to distinguish who your true support group is in order to protect yourself from his allies, it’s also a great source for personal strength and growth. And once you’ve overcome the feelings of betrayal, and learned the real reasons for this tactic of his, it can be a great source for endless humor by seeing what “the blind leading the blind” truly means. Stay away from these toxic people, they are harmful to your health, survival and well being.
In labeling you “crazy”, the abuser finds it easier to justify his abuse. If you have already left the abuser he can use a pop psychology term to justify to himself and others why you left him in order to avoid looking at the true reason for your departure, which was his abuse. If you find yourself questioning his lay-diagnosis, I urge you to seek the advice of a licensed psychotherapist who can tell you in a few sessions if any of his claims are valid or not.
http://tribes.tribe.net/abusivepartners/thread/c04b7ec6-2045-4554-bbd3-a3020b15ac61
this is soooooooo typical... the Narc psychopath BinkStink can do whatever she wants, say whatever she wants... twist the truth... make up LIES... attack anyone and everyone she chooses... but boy... out the bitch or call her on her abusiveness and it's a WHINE FESTIVAL...
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I didn't expect that my review of allabouthim.com would be greeted (by the moderator) with contrite self reflection, because I've not seen her display that quality when confronted before. (NO... she expected to cause trouble for other people... but has only caused more for herself ) I'm sad to see that she has frightened her membership with stories of an evil TROLL. (you ARE an evil Troll) Wrong. (right) I am glad that victims have a place to go, and have a leader they feel safe with. I mean only to point out that there was an extreme lack of empathy for the victimized membership, by the moderator. (of course this crazed psychotic bitch is just FULL TO BRIM WITH EMPATHY... as anyone who as seen her comments on Gone Quiet from Our Place can clearly see... hahahahahaha)
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I was not critisizing the membership in any way or shape or form. Just the moderator. (oh, so that makes it OK...to attack JUST ONE PERSON on a forum she is not even part of ) To bring the membership into a froth is inappropriate and again, shows a lack of empathy for them. It is drama they don't need to distract them from working on themselves. They have real issues with true trolls in their lives. (yeah: YOU)
Psychopaths are not run-of-the-mill trouble makers. (look... she wants to think she's SPEACIAL...she's not just the run of the mill troublemaker... she's a PSYCHOPATH... and a PROUD one) They are devastating. (bragging) They are not running amok in our society, they are few and far between. (again.....she's soooooooooo SPECIAL) Yes, there are those of us who DO run into a psychopath, or a narcissist, or a real con. Most of us run into their lesser brothers and sisters, still quite devastating. But it is not the end of the world. For MOST people. I think, as Lisa Scott states, you have a lot of choice in how you define yourself in the aftermath.
I concede that Ted Bundy's victims, the dead ones, have no choice to recreate themselves in the aftermath. The living ones do. If you live through your abusive relationship, you have choices. It is your personal right to choose to be destroyed forever by your encounter. I was confronted with this choice myself. My ex husband ATM burned through my entire retirement fund and the proceeds from my house sale in California (which was considerable, I sold in in 2005). (i'm going to address this in an expose' soon... WHAT BECAME OF THE 'RANCHO BINKSTINK'???... what became of the farm that was PURCHASED FROM THE PROCEEDS OF THE CONSIDERABLE proceeds from the sale of her house?... it seems to have just poof... disappeared!!!)
I concede that Ted Bundy's victims, the dead ones, have no choice to recreate themselves in the aftermath. The living ones do. If you live through your abusive relationship, you have choices. It is your personal right to choose to be destroyed forever by your encounter. I was confronted with this choice myself. My ex husband ATM burned through my entire retirement fund and the proceeds from my house sale in California (which was considerable, I sold in in 2005). (i'm going to address this in an expose' soon... WHAT BECAME OF THE 'RANCHO BINKSTINK'???... what became of the farm that was PURCHASED FROM THE PROCEEDS OF THE CONSIDERABLE proceeds from the sale of her house?... it seems to have just poof... disappeared!!!)
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I was financially destroyed, and have forever lost ground because of it. He sicced his dogs on my animals and injured or killed them. He shot a laying hen with a RIFLE at point blank range because he wanted roast chicken. It blew her to smithereens. I was screaming at him to stop. The neighbors called the cops because they thought I was being killed, what with the rifle shots and all. He threatened to kill me uncountable times. And even today people, family included, do not GET IT, they continue to ask why I put up with it and did not "leave sooner". I live every day in a world that I KNOW would think I was an idiot and deserved what I got for staying when I should have SEEN him for what he was.
Instead of accepting what others would (and do) define me as, I learned to accept and forgive myself at the knees of some veteran abuse survivors on Trubble's Catbox (they are all at Our Place) (sucking up... but it's not working... they won't have her) now. I saw that THEY redefined themselves and went on, perhaps limping a bit, to new and better lives. With and without new husbands/boyfriends/children/money/assets. And their hopefulness and strength in the face of adversity was REAL. Not a bunch of smoke and mirrors, or false hope. People in much worse situations than mine. And they were right. Here I am. Still limping, true. Who knows where I will go?I am still living with abuse in my life, I have to admit it.
Instead of accepting what others would (and do) define me as, I learned to accept and forgive myself at the knees of some veteran abuse survivors on Trubble's Catbox (they are all at Our Place) (sucking up... but it's not working... they won't have her) now. I saw that THEY redefined themselves and went on, perhaps limping a bit, to new and better lives. With and without new husbands/boyfriends/children/money/assets. And their hopefulness and strength in the face of adversity was REAL. Not a bunch of smoke and mirrors, or false hope. People in much worse situations than mine. And they were right. Here I am. Still limping, true. Who knows where I will go?I am still living with abuse in my life, I have to admit it.
Narcnarcwhosthere/Confederaterebel is posting the full name and phone numbers and email addresses of administrators, and the name of the hospital corporation I work for, and encouraging people to contact them (YES i AM!!) and SAY they THINK I am using hospital time to post my drivel. Asking people to lie, in case they aren't SURE I am at work. (NOPE... not what i said at all... and i'll POST IT AGAIN BELOW..)
Deliberate attempts to cause me embarrassment and undermine the one thing that keeps me afloat in this world. (You did this to YOURSELF BinkStink - you posted about people, forums and victims YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT - what did you expect??? Your Narc entitlement is showing!!!)
If that is how Barbara feels about her post as moderator, that my criticism was an attempt to undermine the one thing that keeps her afloat in this world, I apologize sincerely. (spare us all)
Just remember that it's not just about YOU. It's about the people who look up to you. Have some pity for their shattered selves. If you must go on and on about how "destroyed" YOU are, say also that you are speaking for yourself only. You've made your choice. Your membership may have not made theirs, yet, and it's only fair to admit that your choice is not the only one. Maybe it's the only one that made sense for YOU. But for the majority of people, it won't be their choice. The majority will want to rise above the abuse and go on to have satisfying lives. (newsflash for the clueless bitch - no one ever said they were talking about ANYONE BUT THEMSELVES... and accusing the moderator of having no empathy for the members??? its pure projection!!! BinkStink has no empathy for anyone but BinkStink... notice how she twists the whole thing back around to poor ole' HER... doesn't that make you frightened for her patients at her job???)
If that is how Barbara feels about her post as moderator, that my criticism was an attempt to undermine the one thing that keeps her afloat in this world, I apologize sincerely. (spare us all)
Just remember that it's not just about YOU. It's about the people who look up to you. Have some pity for their shattered selves. If you must go on and on about how "destroyed" YOU are, say also that you are speaking for yourself only. You've made your choice. Your membership may have not made theirs, yet, and it's only fair to admit that your choice is not the only one. Maybe it's the only one that made sense for YOU. But for the majority of people, it won't be their choice. The majority will want to rise above the abuse and go on to have satisfying lives. (newsflash for the clueless bitch - no one ever said they were talking about ANYONE BUT THEMSELVES... and accusing the moderator of having no empathy for the members??? its pure projection!!! BinkStink has no empathy for anyone but BinkStink... notice how she twists the whole thing back around to poor ole' HER... doesn't that make you frightened for her patients at her job???)
The narcissistically injured on the other hand, cannot rest until she has blotted out a vaguely experienced offender who dared to oppose her, to disagree with her, or to outshine her.
It can never find rest because it can never wipe out the evidence that has contradicted its conviction it is unique and perfect. This archaic rage goes on and on and on.
Group Helplessness and Rage -- Ernest S. Wolf, MD
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BOOOO HOOOOOO... Nurse Hatchet can stalk people... slander them and attack them on her nasty little psycho blog... but no one had better report her INSANITY... typical Narc/Psychopath ENTITLEMENT... hey Binky... here's a news flash (only news to you)... YOU'RE NUTS!!!!.. you creepy little journal, filled with your creepy little thoughts brings to mind several other WINGNUTS..i ncluding the COLUMBINE SHOOTERS... and .THE PITTSBURG GYM SHOOTER...
you need to take a rest BinkStink,.. a nice long rest... or one day you're turn up in an article like THIS ONE...
you need to take a rest BinkStink,.. a nice long rest... or one day you're turn up in an article like THIS ONE...
anyone who agrees with this, and would like to report the disturbing things BinkStink is posting on her psycho-blog... i do urge you to contact... PROVIDENCE MEDICAL CENTER in OLYMPIA WASHINGTON... 360-491-9480... ask to speak to an ADMINISTRATOR.. tell them you want to make a complaint about a nurse there... her name is Kim... she is an oncology RN... they will know exactly who you are talking about ... or... you can ask to speak to Mary Mertens, Manager Employee/Labor Relations mailto:Relationmary.martens@providence.org .. or you can contact Cynthia Binkerd at Cynthia.Binkerd@providence.org
tell them you're sick of her insane spews... her attacks on victims of domestic violence... her stalking forums she is not a member of, or welcome at, and that you believe she is doing it on THEIR TIME CLOCK. (because she has certainly done it in the past).. be sure and mention her creepy journal.. and if you email them... be sure and send a link to any posts you find OFFENSIVE or DISTURBING on her journal... MAYBE if she has to get a job at Jack in the Box or Walmart... the crazy bitch won't have time to STALK...
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tell them you're sick of her insane spews... her attacks on victims of domestic violence... her stalking forums she is not a member of, or welcome at, and that you believe she is doing it on THEIR TIME CLOCK. (because she has certainly done it in the past).. be sure and mention her creepy journal.. and if you email them... be sure and send a link to any posts you find OFFENSIVE or DISTURBING on her journal... MAYBE if she has to get a job at Jack in the Box or Walmart... the crazy bitch won't have time to STALK...
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SOMEONE is sure spending a great deal of time on this blog... if it's BinkStink, kudos on getting yourself a proxy server... verrrrrrrrrry creepy and psychoish... if it's NOT BinkStink... or if it's one of her proxies using a proxy... then you're also verrrrrrry creepy and psycho-ish... but please keep on reading... eventually when somone googles PROVIDENCE MEDICAL CENTERS... ol BinkStink here will pop up like a nasty cold sore!!!!
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