Can't Get Enough of These Masquerades!

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NICE TRY, BINKSTINK!

In her latest post, BinkStink tried this exact tactic... nice try... not buying your "poor little ole me" bullshit!

A COMMON TACTIC OF NARCISSISTS
by Anna Valerious

Manipulators. We've all been taken in by them. All malignant narcissists are manipulators, though not all manipulators are narcissists. Either way, it is impossible to avoid them. It is possible to minimize our susceptibility to them.

The concept that has helped me the most in enabling me to recognize when someone is trying to force me into what they want from me is the reality that manipulators are aggressive, and most times they are able to hide their aggression. George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D. of "In Sheep's Clothing" calls them "covert-aggressives". As I read his book I realized that my whole experience with my sister especially, but also my mother, was that of being up against a covertly-aggressive person. My sister is better at it than my mother is. Interestingly enough.

Simon makes a great case for opening our eyes to what is really happening in these interactions; that the character disordered individual, or simply aggressive person, is fighting to get their own way when they use certain tactics. And he points out that they are tactics. Not defensive reactions.

"...viewing someone who's in the act of aggressing as being defensive in any sense is a major set-up for victimization." pg. 95

He also describes the tactics of the covert-aggressive as being another form of lying.

One of the first things their tactics accomplish for them is to conceal the fact that they are fighting with you. They are refusing to allow you to have the opinion you have, the standards you have, the decision you've made. They are attempting to force your surrender to their way, their opinion, their standards (or lack thereof). But the first thing they must do is come at you in such a way that the first thing you'll think is that they are reacting defensively. They hide their aggressiveness under a cloak of pretense that they are simply acting out of defensiveness which, of course, means that you attacked them. So the next thing their tactics accomplish is putting you on the defensive. Now you are knocked off-balance and the covert-aggressive will likely start throwing so many different manipulative tactics at you at once that you end up falling for the ruse and capitulate.

Simon states that it is impossible to list all the tactics manipulators use, but he does make a short list of the most popular ones. He starts with "minimization". It is a 'oh my god' moment to see it spelled out. How many, many times have my mother or sister used this tactic on me and others?? It could not be counted.

Simon again contrasts the behavior of the neurotic with that of the character disordered as he explains this tactic:

"...the aggressor is attempting to assert that his behavior isn't really as harmful or irresponsible as someone else may be claiming. It's the aggressor's attempt to make a molehill out of a mountain... Neurotics frequently make mountains out of molehills, or 'catastrophize.' The disturbed character frequently trivializes the nature of his wrongdoing. Manipulators do this to make a person who might confront them feel they've been overly harsh in their criticism or unjust in their appraisal of a situation."

Then the money quote, in my opinion:

"Minimization is not primarily the way they make themselves feel better about what they did, it's primarily the way they try to manipulate my impression of them. They don't want me to see them as a person who behaves like a thug. Because they are most often comfortable with their aggressive personality style, they also want me to believe that there's nothing wrong with the kind of person they are." pg. 97

Can you see the lie that is the fabric of this type of manipulation? If you miss the lie, you can be convinced by the manipulator that you are the one aggressing against them. You are the one who is misapprehending the truth of what happened, the truth of what they are. You big meanie. Look at poor little defensive me trying to stand up against your mean and nasty aggression against me! I was only... fill in the blank... as they cut that mountain down to the size of a zit. You back down because suddenly they are the victim and you are hurting them. You fall for the wounded wing act. The one who was truly fighting for their own way is pretending that you are the one who picked the fight, who is being unfair, who needs to admit you are wrong!

I so loathe this sneaky way of lying to get ones way.

I had read this book some months before my last interaction with my sister. I had forgotten about the book, but some of the concepts I had learned were operational for me. My sister's aggression was immediately obvious to me. I did not allow her to minimize the mountain. I didn't believe the covert lie that by my having a certain opinion that I had put her on the defensive. I again highly recommend this little book. It can save your sanity when you're suddenly in a "fight" with a sneaky little lying f-ing manipulator.

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BINKSTINK... YOUR PSYCHOPATHY IS SHOWING!

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"Innocence seldom utters outraged shrieks. Guilt does. Innocence is a mighty shield, and the man or woman covered by it, is much more likely to answer calmly: 'My life is blameless. Look into it, if you like, for you will find nothing.'
-Whittaker Chambers

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my life is an open book... i don't hide who i am... where i am... or what i believe... that's BinkStink's number one stock in trade... her and all other Psychopaths.

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the evidence is overwhelming... BinkStink is not just a garden variety toxic weed commonly known as a NARCISSIST... BinkStink is a more rare and even more TOXIC WEED... a PSYCHOPATH... with some very SCHIZOPHRENIC overtones...

BinkStink will not just GO AWAY... because she wants to completely dominate and control her current victim of choice... which in this case is me... she refuses to go away...

outing the NASTY BITCH only enraged her further... and now she has launched into another round of her attacks followed by lies... followed by taking the ever popular psychopath 'I'm the victim here' stance... any of us here who has known a Narc or a PSYCHOPATH knows this game well...

first the nasty little psychotic cockroach scurried out of the hole she has been hiding in since being OUTED.... and posted a schizophasic attack on me... sending me 'condolences' on someone she apparently in her Schizophrenic mind has come to believe is my father!.. some guy who died in prison in 2006... who was a member of the KKK...

she then launches into another SCHIZOPHRENIC/SCHIZOPHASIC spew about me SELLING 'heirlooms' from this person... her insanity and delusions have become quite obvious... to everyone except her...

she, in her Psychopathic rage, has somehow failed to notice the date of this article she dug up... and BinkStink says that this person is ABOUT TO BE buried in a pauper's grave if i don't claim his body...

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Hey Mary!!!

bink_think
February 3rd, 14:29
Check it out, I think I found yer Pa! http://www.picayuneitem.com/local/local_story_311142508.html
I realize it will be more emotionally difficult than ever to sell your . . . erm, heirlooms to the rich, kinky and bored collectors of such. . . memorabilia. Then again, it's possible you could exploit your relationship for a higher bid. Anyway, condolences :)

now.. .as with all Narcissists and Psychopaths... her attacks on me are JUSTIFIED... but if i defend myself, then of course i am the attacker, in her disordered mind...

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like all Narcissists and PSYCHOPATHS... BinkStink is a pathological liar... and will tell any sort of lie, tweak time, space and the truth - to cover her own psychotic ass... Narcs and Psychopaths will often tell ridiculous transparent lies... like the ones below:

I DO read Mary's blog. I check it about every other day. From home. Our "net nanny" at work does not allow us to access Facebook or MySpace or Blogger. It's tremendously ANNOYING because I know my sunflowers are ready to be harvested and must hope they do not shrivel by the time I get home.

BinkStink's personal IP address... 76.104.243.242, through COMCAST CABLE was banned from this blog on January 19th, 2010... since that time she has been EXCLUSIVELY using the computers of PROVIDENCE MEDICAL CENTER... so if she is checking my blog from 'home'.... we can only hope that HOME is a locked mental ward at PROVIDENCE MEDICAL CENTER... and that she keeps making repeated escapes from her CAGE to run to a computer to read my blog... because the IP logger does not lie... even though BinkStink does nothing but... so here it is again... a log of her most RECENT USE of the computers belonging to PROVIDENCE MEDICAL CENTERS...

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Binkstink is obsessed with several of the posts on my other blog blog... including the one she last viewed... NARCISSISTS ARE OBESSESED WITH THEIR IMAGE... yes, they certainly ARE... to the point of telling any lame lie they can come up with to attempt to cover up their abuse of others...

of course... while accusing me of whatever pops into her crazy head... BinkStink... like ALL Narcs and PSYCHOPATHS... knows no fear... she must believe her own lies... that she is not using the computers at her place of employment... when something can be PROVEN beyond a doubt... but when someone continues to refuse to acknowledge or believe what has been proven... then they are considered to be DELUSIONAL.... boy... that's a big surprise... BinkStink is delusional!!!!

“A favored technique is to debilitate your identity by levelling false accusations and/or questioning your honesty, fidelity, trustworthiness, your “true” motivations, your “real” character, your sanity and judgment. They are absolutely the world’s best manipulators, liars, and fabricators of truth. They do so convincingly because they believe their own lies. After all their life is nothing but a lie, a sham, how can we possibly assume they know anything different.” -The Mask of Sanity/ H. Cleckley

BinkStink is a Psychopath... a noxious, toxic little pile of psychopathic SHIT... who has been unmasked REPEATEDLY... she was unmasked by Dr. Irene Matiatos (who CERTAINLY should know one when she smells one) and banned from Trubbles Catbox (which she also continues to 'read' ie STALK... to the point of copying posts and answering them on her own blog... for lack of anywhere else to spew... as if anyone is truly interested in her opinion!)

banned along with her stalker whack job cohort GOONGODDESS... and she was unmasked again here... along with her stalker whack job cohort GOONGODDESS...

the mask if off BinkStink... you can spin it... you can lie... you can spew... but the fact is... YOUR MASK IS OFF... and you won't be able to fool those who now KNOW... no matter how hard you try....

you're a sick twisted piece of shit, BinkStink... YOU truly are a lonely spurned puddle of fermenting drivel... one that people who have seen you for what you really are will from now on either walk through then wipe their shoes... or step around with disgust and revulsion...

the mask is off... and what is underneath is HATEFUL... AND NASTY... AND LOATHSOME... AND UGLY... and we can all see it... CLEARLY