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Monday, April 5, 2010

BINKSTINK IS A CRYBABY... BOOOOO HOOOOO

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Is it so wrong to expect people to treat you as you've treated them?

-BinkStink

oh my... how sad... BinkStink has rewritten history... she's hidden all her nasty posts... and yet i, horrid horrible person that i am... i have neither forgotten or forgiven!!. .woe is BinkStink... read her latest pity party (my invective in TURQUOISE)
Is it so wrong to expect people to treat you as you've treated them?(NOPE...not at all, especially when you've treated them like shit) Well, yes. (the pity party is getting OLD, Narc )

Because it's hopeless.You can't make another person behave in a manner that you think is appropriate unless you can beat them, shame them or terrify them into compliance. (yep.. you tried all that, huh BinkStink) Or, unless they already have the faculty of loving you and wanting to please you. If they do not, then you are back to coercion by force.

I don't think there is any escape from "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". It's just that you can't MAKE them do unto you in a specific way, no matter how much good you do unto them.SHOULD they? (poooooor BinkStink... what a martyred saint...)

This thought is, "I want you to X, therefore, you should." The wanter is the sun around which the planets of other people revolve. (NARC NARC) Not real flattering. (NOPE BinkStink... not flattering)

Wanting other people, no DEMANDING they treat you decently is entitlement.But then . . . but then . . . it's still not RIGHT that I was treated poorly, was it? (who is she talking about?... who treated this bitch POORLY?.. oh yeah.. everybody in the world, because she's a NARC)No, it wasn't RIGHT.But then . . . but then . . . I should do something about it!!Yes indeed, but what? Do what?Here's the rub. We get stuck believing that the problem is with the other person who is treating us badly.

I mean, it seems so obvious. But it's a misperception of solution. And a brick wall, besides, one I've beat my head against forever.Yes, do something. Do something you CAN do.Like . . . walk away. Leave.(lie.. rewrite histoy... play the victim) Accept the other person exactly as they are, give them that much respect and credit. It's against no law for a person to be an ass, a jerk, or a bitch. See yourself as you are, unable to reach in and mess with their motherboard. So what CAN you do?What I do is take myself away. (translates to 'run away and reinvent myself') I avoid people who treat me like shit. (tranlates to 'i avoid people who are onto me' )It's very natural, even paramecia do it.

I can imagine only extreme situations where I would confront a person and TELL them to treat me better. The rest of the time, I don't need them to treat me one way or another. They don't define me. They can't get inside me all that easily (anymore). Whatever, dude. Knock yourself out. Go in peace, asshole.I spend just as much time as I ever did noticing people who act like barbarians, but much LESS time searching and obsessing about what to do about it.
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well, shucks... she still sounds a little bummed out... i hope it wasn't Sam's opinion of her... of her personality disorders... i mean after all... she diagnosed herself... not intending to of course... in her little pity party entitled MEAN PEOPLE SUCK... she said this.. lobbing it at me....
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From what I know about personality disorders, a person WITH one is a person with a hazy, indistinct sense of self. It is easily threatened, and viciously defended. An insult is life or death. They are both grandiose and so insignificant to themselves. When we are talking ideas and honesty and integrity, which are much higher on the food chain than they can grasp, they are struggling, like a 13 year old terror of a kid, for a simple sense of SELF. The sense they do have is so fragile a breeze would dislodge it. It really is life and death, to them.I can better understand "mean people" from this point of view.
BinkStink is throwing herself quite the PITY PARTY...but looks like no one came.....
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How can I tell whom not to trust?" ...the best clue is, of all things, the pity play. The most reliable sign, the most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one might imagine, at our fearfulness. It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy...More than admiration--more even than fear--pity from good people is carte blanche. When we pity, we are, at least for the moment, defenseless...You know this is true. How many times in the movies has this tactic been used by the evil villain? Innumerable. We are screaming at our TV screens, "Don't fall for that!!" as we see the camouflaged evil villain lure in the good guy by appealing to the good guy's intact heart and conscience with a convincing act of being wounded, pitiable, defenseless. If the good guy believes the act, he is the one rendered defenseless. This allows the bad guy to kill him or make an escape. This scene happens over and over again in movies because we all recognize it to be a common tactic of evil people, and we all recognize the good guy's vulnerability to such a tactic. His decency is what sets him up for the fall. We find ourselves wishing that the good guy could be just a little less decent for a moment so he can avoid what we can see is coming...his annihilation.Do we have to lose our decency to insure we don't fall for such a ruse? No, I don't think so. We just need to pay attention. Don't assume that anyone who seems pathetic and pitiable is automatically going to deserve your compassion or pity. Remember that giving sympathy to evil doers is no virtue. If you want your compassion to be virtuous be sure to give it to the truly deserving.Stout gives us some guidance on how to decide who is trustworthy and who is deserving of your compassion:"When deciding whom to trust, bear in mind that the combination of consistently bad or egregiously inadequate behavior with frequent plays for your pity is as close to a warning mark on a conscienceless person's forehead as you will ever be given."

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"I am sure that if the devil existed, he would want us to feel very sorry for him."

-The Sociopath Next Door, pg. 109.

The devil does exist. Boot his or her sorry ass out of your life.
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BOOOOOO HOOOOOO BinkStink... cry me a river of crocodile tears... i'm not buying it... and looks like no one else is either...

Monday, March 22, 2010

THE PSYCHOPATH BINKSTINK REWRITES HISTORY, TO SUIT HER AUDIENCE AND HERSELF!!!..

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I twist the facts to suit myself, I rewrite history where I see fit and you must believe it at all costs. I embellish, Omit and dramatise everything to suit my needs.I refuse to listen , if anyone did anything wrong it was you and not me. I am always the victim and never the abuser.I am a great big projection machine and I will deflect and project any evil or bad behaviour back onto you, because you see , You are the problem not me.-
http://masksofsanity.blogspot.com/2009/06/who-am-i.html

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'See, what I did, wasn't much more than call bullshit and confront her about the inconsistencies and evasions in her "story". '

that quote directly above is from BinkStink... from her little pitty party entitled... MEAN PEOPLE SUCK... what she really did was attack me relentlessly... slander me... call me a liar... berate me and deride me on her nasty little blog... so now... well... BinkStink... all i'm doing HERE is CALLING BULLSHIT and confronting YOU about the inconsistencies and evasions in YOUR STORIES!!!!!

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as those of you who read my blog regularly know... both my blog and i, and now friends of mine have been stalked and slandered and attacked and harassed for quite some time by Kimberly Anne Stewart, aka Bink on the Catbox.. and known here as BinkStink... this woman is a predator... a psychopath... and i repeatedly asked and told her to leave me alone... or that i would expose her... she refused... so now i am exposing her, as promised...

psychopaths and narcissists are liars... they continually twist and rewrite the truth to suit the situation and and the audience... and this particular psychopath is not only big on PROJECTION... she is to quote her... a 'HIPPODROME PROJECTOR'... all of the vile nasty things she has accused me of are actually her own behaviors...
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we are about to see a psychopath at work... in print... although BinkStink proudly boasts of her over 5000 posts on Trubble's Catbox... it's not the only forum she's been on... but it is the one where she finally found the perfect audience for her CON... she shopped around until she stumbled on them... she shopped around quite a bit... and each time she put a different spin on her EVIL FAIRY TALE... to attract the most sympathy, and for maximum effect...

here is Kimberly Anne Stewart, aka Bink, aka BinkStink... on a public forum called Miracles in Progress... an online Alanon group... on this forum BinkStink is not the frightened abuse victim of the Catbox... but the concerned 'wife' of an addict... seeking to turn her life over to her "Higher Power"... BEHOLD... a lying psychopath in print!!..
KIM65

Full Name:
Kim S.
Location: North Idaho
Birthday: 1965-06-28

Messages Posted :812
Status :Active
Member Since :Feb 24, 2007
Last Access: November 25th


Biography

I am 42 yrs old with two grown children and recently separated from an active alcoholic/addict. Two years ago, I left my previous life as a nurse manager for a chemical dependency hospital in San Diego for the homesteading life in rural North Idaho.The move and lifestyle change was not something I would have done without the A hammering at me for YEARS. Once we got up here and got started, he relapsed and has been in this state since. Ironically, I am the one who has embraced this new life and am the current proud Farm Mom for 30 something chickens, 10 geese, 21 dairy goats, 3 and possibly 4 dogs if "Dewey" is really a stray and needs a home, and one little manx kitty.I've been in and out of Alanon since adolescence, when my Dad went into recovery. I joined MIP in January or February (??) since getting to meetings is a rare treasure. I have found sincere recovery on this board, and am a believe than online 12 step off shoots are the real thing. I am deeply grateful to be a part of MIP!

Helen Keller could see that this is the same person as our little BinkStink... and you can already see some variations in her 'story'... the number of dogs is a striking one... by the time she's on the Catbox it has become 13 dogs... and here she is 'recently separated' -- but on the Catbox she has fled a raging lunatic and gotten an RO and is sleeping with her finger on the trigger of a gun, yada yada yada...

you are about to see a psychopath in action... i am going to post KIM65/BINK telling two very DIFFERENT versions of the same fabricated story to two different audiences...be sure and note the DATES... what she did was simply take some yarns she wove at Miracles in Progress, redated and edited them, and posted them on the Catbox... where she finally got what she was looking for...... not sincere recovery.. but some SUCKERS...



Kim65

Posts: 812Date: Jul 25, 2007

Feelings are so weird . . .

and surprising. I ran to the little store in town this morning for gas and passed the A coming out of the store. We were both shocked for a second or two, then he grinned at me . . . his best "Hi, Sweetheart" sort of grin. The one that made my knees weak way back when we began dating.I looked away so fast I almost missed it, and kept walking. I grabbed my Starbucks sugar bomb drink, paid for my gas, and listened to the cashier tell me, "Looks like he's doing real well . . . maybe he'll get his act together??"

By the time I got out to my car tears were dripping from my chin. I just had to sit and cry for a few minutes. I had no coherent thoughts, other than such sadness and grief.
I got home and started milking the goats. I told HP "This is yours, I don't even know WHAT I'm feeling right now, but I know you do. I'm letting you have it because I don't have it in me to do anything with it right now.

"The goats got milked, and I had my usual morning of enjoyment with the chickens, the brave turkey who I caught drinking the milk right out of the bucket (what's a little turkey spit between friends??), the usual stuff.

So now that HP took it and I'm less volatile, I have to wonder what happened. The Hi Sweetheart smile undid me somehow, and I wanted to scratch the smile off of his face. How DARE he smile at me ?? I am offended. I feel deeply HURT by it.

We passed a communication to each other, and maybe I do not need to interpret it, but it hit me hard and I thought of you guys right away. . . why his little smile struck me like a bolt of lightening and left a mystery in my heart.

I needed to share this with my Alanon compatriots. I so appreciate you all for being "there" :)

make note of the date... July, 2007... by October of 2007 she was on the Catbox... with a very different version of the same fabricated story... rewritten for her target audience (aka - the next SUCKERS)...


Posted 10 October 2007 - 04:19 PM


I had plans to make a trip into "town" (sixty miles away) for supplies . . . I made it four miles into the little hamlet I live in, and see the ex's truck at the post office. I pull into the mini market down the street and just have a very bad feeling . . .

so I sit there and the ex walks out the doors of the mini market, about fifteen feet away from me.
There's no hiding. I just turned my head.

Needless to say I did my business at the mini market, turned around and sped four miles back home, shaking
. I sound so tough, you know, but I'm not. I go for weeks without hearing a word or even seeing him, which is amazing since there are less than 400 people in this hamlet. But when I do see him, even for a nanosecond, all I want to do is speed home, lock all the doors and windows and gates, make sure my pistol has a bullet in the chamber and LIE LOW.Just seeing him scares me shittless. Yeah, I'm so darn tough alright.

I KNOW my decision to end this relationship is right, beyond a shadow of a doubt.

I KNOW he is a freak of nature, a bad man, a con man, he's screwing whoever he can, drinking and using drugs while going to AA meetings to get a statement from them to take to court for his meth posession charges.

I KNOW I am thinking clearly about him, I am GLAD he's gone, I wish he'd drop off the face of the planet and slither back into the hole he was born from. I am not shaky in my resolve, I don't miss him, I don't have any lingering wishes.

I just get SO scared when we get "close" like this, while he walked past the car I felt a wave of DANGER coming from him in his body language, the way he snapped his pack of cigarettes against the palm of his hand.I am so scared!
And all I did was almost run into him.

Am I freaking over nothing? I feel like I am in danger. I am really scared, and there isn't any real reason "why".

Bink

yes, Catboxers... looks like you were HAD by a lying psychopath!!! her adult 20 year old son was living with her and ATM the whole time!!! OOOPS!. she forgot to tell you that???? geee... wonder why?????. poooooor Bink... soooooooo afraid of ATM... but not so afraid as to not let her own son be hanging out with him!!!!!

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=12911077

Date: Aug 2, 2007


What a jerk . .

The A ran into my son and his friend in town, and asked them to come cut wood with him to make a little cash. These 20 yr old boys were thrilled, as the A told them he could make $500 in a single day. They waited for him at his place until they got bored and drifted over to a new friend's home. In the meantime, the A got the car keys from them to "check" something (the car is in the A's name), and now refuses to return the car. It was a set up, easy to do to a couple of 20 yr olds.This little car was my son and friend's transportation. The A bought it this last winter, and has verbally given my son permission to drive it when he came up, by his own word to the kid. At least I can say I didn't get involved in that one.This is the same car the A tried to hijack from me a month ago while I was gassing it up in town. He's managed to get his own truck out of impound, so he has the farm truck, his own truck, and his motorcycle, and now has "reclaimed" the car he promised my son he could use when he first got up here.So my kid walks in the door at midnight last night, having walked 4 1/2 miles from town. It sounds like the boy had a nice time letting the A have it verbally at least :D . He told the A "you're NOTHING" and walked away, after it became clear the car wasn't coming back.Surprisingly my Mother Bear didn't really come out with claws and teeth (well, it was after midnight and I was pooped!). I'm upset but not surprised. The A wouldn't have done something like this a year ago, so my son was caught off guard.Since this car is in the A's name, there's nothing I can do. I do plan on calling the "boss" sheriff up here to notify him of this. It's just info at this point.What this does is screw the boys over, in terms of getting jobs or getting around. We have MY car, which they can use. But still.I just had to get this out. My mind, though fairly calm on this, is still trying to "solve the problem" and go back over and over what I SHOULD have done, I shouild have warned the boys to stay away from him, yada yada.What a royal jerk he is. No big shock.My "real" concern now is this success on the A's part will likely fuel his fire to try and find ways to get the rest of the power tools, etc, that he feels entitled to. Just like this little car, all was purchased with the farm money, which was provided by me. I think I'll call my lawyer too, and see what he has to say. If anything, we can push this lawsuit forward to get to the settlement faster, to get him the hell out of my hair and life period.Luckily, none of the local sheriffs will cooperate with the A in making an appointment to come get the rest of his stuff. Well, that's what he gets for manipulating them. Once burned, twice shy.By writing this, I'm turning it over to HP. Thanks again for listening :)

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wait a minute!!!...she's TERRIFIED of him...but she let's her son hang out with him????.....work with him???......geeez....doesn't sound tooo terrified to me!!.and she thought it was FUNNY when her son CONFRONTED ATM....instead of being SCARED!!!..and in the story above she's calling her lawyer to push her lawsuit through!...i thought she was BROKE....and i thought ATM was in JAIL....i thought there was an RO.......it was all a lie, Catboxers......all a lie!!!......and here are a couple of different versions of the firewood story.........the skanks are her friends..GOOD FRIENDS.....no ,wait..... they were friends of ATM who slept at her house a couple of times......no, wait....they were friends.....no..they were just a couple of drug addicts.......no, wait..........lie lie lie lie lie lie..........

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Nov 8, 2007
Date: Nov 8, 2007

Yesterday mutual friends of exA and I brought over a cord of pine rounds for firewood. This was unannounced, as the puppies had chewed through my phone cord (again). T and M (the mutual friends) just drove up with this wood, which I desperately need. They got it from the exA's "business partner". These two go out on state forest land and get firewood and sell it.

I definitely did not want to involve the exA in anyway, there's a RO and I don't speak to him at all, though he's sent a couple of verbal messages through T and M. I was willing to do business through the "business buddy" though, as long as it wasn't mentioned it was ME.
I should have known this would backfire.

T
and M said it would be 120 bucks a cord for the wood. Immediately I said that was way too much for PINE. They assured me it was the going price, and there they were in the yard with the truck loaded down. Plus, T and M said the exA had another cord of wood he wanted to just give me for free. ExA's AA sponsor had told him he needed to do that for me, whatever. So I thought well, two cords of wood for 120 bucks. OK.

When we unloaded the wood, T and M let it slip they'd all been hanging out together that morning, with the exA, and so now he knows I was going around him for wood. Very special. I wanted to clang their heads together, but let it go. They also handed me a single sheet letter from exA. Before T and M took off, they said they didn't know IF or WHEN they could get me the wood the exA was just going to give me.

"You know how he is," they said, "You never know if he's telling the truth or not".

I waved them away and had a bad feeling.
uh huh... on MIP she turned pooooor Tim in in hopes of saving him... but on the Catbox... she narc'd out ATM because she 'just wanted him GONE'...

on
MIP she's turning it over to her 'higher power'....on the Catbox, all her faith is in her trusty
'9mm Walther'...

on
MIP her 20 year old son is living with her, and has been for some time... on the Catbox, she has abandoned both her children in California... and is a pathetic fearful domestic violence victim, all alone with a ravening meth addict after her!....

ah... what a tangled web we weave...


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http://www.drirene.com/catbox/index.php?showtopic=45804&st=0
Posted 07 November 2007 - 06:35 PM
I've heard nothing from my ex since I got him kicked out in June. He's sent messages via our mutual friends T and M, which I only responded to by telling him NO.

For the new folks or those who don't know my story, my ex is a drug addict and probably a sociopath or a narc. I have a year long RO, which forces him out of the home we co-own. I bought it with my money, but allowed him to put his name on the title like a typical, malignantly hopeful abused woman. We never legally married. Even more embarassing to me, he never divorced his first wife. She fled to Japan with their son and refused to return, after he moved HER into the remote country and did exactly the same drug addict/VA/PA green beans to her.

So I'm trying to run my "retirement" farm by myself, after he wiped us out financially buying drugs, after he wiped ME out emotionally to the point I was afraid I was going to do something stupid. So at the first opportunity, I turned him into the sheriff, just to get him away from me. I didn't care anymore about finances, being stuck up here alone with a bunch of livestock and gun nuts and mountain men (I'm an ex city girl too). I just wanted him GONE. Only after he was gone did I realize his abusiveness for what it was.

I've been feeling very down and frightened lately
, I seem to cycle in and out of feeling like "yes, I can do this by myself!!" and "I am not going to be able to do this on my own." For the last week, I've been feeling the latter. It's very hard. I pray a lot. The farm money IS gone, and I'm living on a string. And winter is coming. And I can't leave the farm for more than a couple of hours at a time. So . . . sometimes it's just hard.

So T and M come by today and sold me a cord of much needed wood. And brought a letter from the ex that I thought I'd share. Yes, the letter really bothered me, so I played with it. I feel much better now :) .

The bold face is his exact words and spellings. My first impression was that his letter said nothing at all. I was disappointed in a sick sort of way that he didn't at least put more effort or prose into it, I mean, sheesh. Then I read it again and like slime the "message" started oozing out.

This is the first time he's said a WORD to me since June when I kicked him out.

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Dear Bink,I am sending this short note along with the wood, I have much to say to you, I pray that it be soon so that I may leave these burdens, Guilts and pain behind. I spoke with my lawyer yesterday and we shall all meet in court soon. I have proposed that we do 4 or more nuetral marraige Counseling sessions. I have placed my expectations that we might part friends and work out our seperation. If we decide to work toward mending the old or starting a fresh relationship that would be a plus. I wish to thank you for your hard work, keeping the farm in operation, I wish I was there along side you. I found nothing in my past, that pains me like being away from our house in the woods. I would like to start sending money to you by leaving envelopes in the mail box. I see nothing in the court paperwork that restricts mail or phone, we will talk more about this in our next court appearance. His First Name
. . threats and hoovers, all jumbled together in hopes I'll be confused and grateful. It's hard to believe what a hold he had on me . . . the last five months of virtual silence from him has been very healing. My heart goes out to all of you who have to interact with your abusers! It sure helps when the contact is nil . . . then when you do interact, you see them for what they are.

What gets ME is that I am the one that turned him into the sheriff, got him tossed in jail, blew his "cover" to everyone in this little town. And he STILL wants to come back? To do WHAT?? He would NEVER be grateful I stopped him in his tracks so he could get his life back together. He told me I'd be sorry if I ever ratted him out. Is he willing to over look that, hmmmm????
geee... on the Catbox these people are her FRIENDS... on MIP these people are some 'flakey substance abusers'... it's getting harder and harder to keep up with her lies...
vs Bink's Catbox spew:

Today, the truly suckiest part of this whole thing occurred to me. Not only did he send me the stupid empty letter, but he also ripped me off for at least 30 bucks, which is a lot for me right now. I bought a cord of wood from his business partner (their "business" is to go out on state land and gather fire wood and sell it) for one price, and ran into someone in town who bought it from the ex et al for 30 bucks less than they sold it to me. There is also the possiblity he and his minions sold me the cord of wood the ex's AA sponsor made him get to give me FREE. Either way, he's a complete pud and if he gets within arms reach I will scratch the face off of the front of him. OOhhh I hate his guts.

In real life I fear I would act nowhere near my quote above, this guy deserves to have his balls in a paper bag and I'm just the harpy to do it.

I'm sure he and his minions had a great time plotting to rip me off for that wood. Feckin Bonnie and Clyde who I thought were MY friends (T and M from the OP)!!! Ya know they could get about half an ounce of crappy weed with 120 bucks.


I had an insight last night about the "letter" he wrote. I remarked (and you all agreed) it said nothing at all. It hit me that since I've had no contact with him for so long, that when I see him in town I ignore him, or pass him on the highway don't return his "wave" (everyone waves to oncoming traffic up here :) ), that all he has is his own imagination to determine "where I am at" with him. His mind is like a bad neighborhood at night, so who am I to think I could cause him "injury"? He does it all himself much better than I could do.

That I could be DONE with him wouldn't even occur, I mean how dare I . . . his letter really says EVERYTHING I need to know.

His threats about "lawyer" and "court" are kind of funny too. His lawyer is a drunk, and has NEVER returned my lawyers calls or documents to be signed. NEVER. He filed the ex's lawsuit to sell the property and split the proceeds 50/50 but there is still NO COURT DATE, I've called and found that out. I'm not able to proceed b/c it will take another 15K to take this to trial. But the ex doesn't know that.

He's sent Bonnie and Clyde over here a couple of times to "notify" me of court dates
. . . that never existed!! He has apparently tried to set up a kind of mediation with his lawyer and mine, so the four of us could . . . "talk". I have systematically refused. I have a RO. He can stick that on his tongue and hallucinate.

The next time I see him in court is to renew the RO in July. By then, I hope to be in a state of mind that I am BORED with the whole mess. What a loser. I hear that it gets pretty cold in that travel trailer when it hits about 15 degrees outside :D . Let's see if he "makes it" through the winter up here :D He goes to trial for meth posession in December, maybe he'll stay warm in PRISON for a while.

Jenny: I have to say this guy, when I first met him, fooled me SO WELL that I never would have dreamed he was who he's turned out to be. No offense against the good people up here, but he wanted to move out into the sticks to be among his OWN KIND. Thieves, liars, gun nuts, fugitives and drug addicts. Bink

PS: I don't know how I could survive this without you guys :wub: :wub: !!!


vs. Miracles in Progress spew:

It's so hard to tell a story with all the details and not have it be an e-book!Jean: yep, I live near a town of 400 on a mountain. The whole town was wiped out in 2000 by the lumber mill shutting down, so who's left are mainly retirees and people on state assistance with disabilities, ie, people who literally couldn't go anywhere else. The mean income is 23K per year per household.

Plus, my exA in his drugging and carousing made contacts with all these people who aren't above board if you know what I mean
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CG: only in the last couple of weeks have I felt like maybe I can't do this after all . . . no offense taken at ALL about the hillbillies, you lived here for a while, and it's all true. Most of the hillbillies woudn't DO something this underhanded and cruel, knowing I am poorer than they are!

I won't see any money in the mailbox, that is a classic "hoover maneuver", trying to suck me back in. I see that for what it is.

So I think you "get it", either a) T and M the so called "friends" made a 30 dollar profit off of me while lying about the going rate of wood knowing I was desperate, or b) they sold me the "free" wood the exA picked up due to pressure from his sponsor.T and M are flakey substance abusers, but exA in the past remarked he'd asked them to buy something for him when they went to town and it cost a lot more than he thought it would. I didn't even know them at the time, nor was there a receipt that I remember.

Somehow I just get the feeling that they would do it if they thought they could get away with it.
It is very, very discouraging. All around. I'm trying hard not to catastrophize this.

Kim
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geeeeeez... is she going to PRAY over it... or shoot the bastard????... it's soooooo hard to keep up!!!

is she turning it all over to her HIGHER POWER... or is she going to turn a GUN on him????? does she want to SAVE him or SHOOT him????

does she have 3 dogs... or 9 dogs... or 13 dogs... or NO DOGS AT ALL?????...

is she a scared vulnerable woman alone on top of a mountain... or does she have her 20 year old son and a friend of his living there???

guess it just depends on what version of her STORIES you're reading... and what forum she's lying on!!!!

MIP spew:


Ah thanks every one :)

I KNOW I was ripped off, but just exactly how and why, I guess it's not so important. And I agree, there's nothing to be done about it but cut off those relationships as well.It's still hard for me to *believe* people would do that stuff to each other.

And so nice that exA was involved in the planning too. Maresie, YES I expect people to deal with me honestly, not play pretty to my face and screw me behind my back. I don't give a holy heck what their problem is, it's an automatic write off in my book. I would NEVER do this to someone else, I disagree with Robin Hood on principle. I don't care what life has brought to you, you don't do that crap for ANY reason.

I am seriously bent out of shape about it but I'm also flexible. No, I won't beat myself up about it.But I WILL react, in order to not have people like that in my life. Other than that, there's nothing to do but let it go.

When you lie down with dogs you get fleas. I didn't even lie down with them, I just let them in my house a few times and they let me "talk" and were supportive and funny
.(dam it!!...i thought they were CLOSE FRIENDS!!..IT'S SOOOOOOO HARD TO KEEP UP!!) GAWD I must be lonely.Jen, I LOVE St Maries.Sometimes I think I should just sell this place, pay the lawyer with the proceeds to take the whole thing to trial and get the hell out of this god forsaken place. A town of 2500 sounds like civilization :) to me. I'll get all my stuff and animals moved and spend a week with CG on the beach :D.

I'm afraid I'm getting "beaten down" by circumstances. This sucks.
I'll pray on this one and turn it over, I promise.

I would have never believed my ex would do something like this. I never, ever saw him treat another person like this. T and M . . . well, I am HURT beyond words, but now I know what kind of people they are. But my EX??? Where's my head?? He's an unrepentant drug addict, even losing his home b/c of it hasn't woken him up.

No, mine never did look out for me either, Maresie. It's like, why am I surprised?? His first real communication to me in six months is a letter about him getting rid of HIS pain and burdens, him missing OUR house and some threatening comments about his lawyer and court thrown in for good measure. Not one word about "how are you doing?" He assumes I'm just hunky dory. No, he wouldn't even go that far . . . I'm the one who took his toys away.I guess calling the cops and getting a RO really made him mad (snort). The beast is revealed.

Heartbroken, your post was very, very comforting and supportive :) Thank you so much for your prayers -- I really need them :)

I had a good cry over this when I went out to feed dinner to everyone.
I started thinking about who I would "take with me" when I leave and then I had to stop thinking like that real fast.

Sometimes I am afraid I am just insane to think I can do this. I really want to do it, but I've never done it before, long term anyway, so how could I know what's possible and what's not? People are saying "Oh you are so TOUGH and STRONG" and you know what? To what end? I am tough and strong and persistent enough to drive myself into the ground, I've done it before.I have much to think about . . . but I refuse to do it tonight.
Turning it over .

vs Catbox spew:

Posted 09 November 2007 - 11:45 PM

Yes I know how to use the gun, it's a 9mm Walther. I like heck don't want to use it but I will. He taught me how, guns are one of his passions. All windows and doors lock, doors have dead bolts. I have 9 dogs (damn!!! refer to her 'profile' above... she states she has THREE DOGS... and eventually her on the Catbox it becomes THIRTEEN DOGS... but RIGHT NOW SHE HAD NINE!!! SOOOOOOO HARD TO KEEP UP WITH THE LIES!!!) and one is a Great Pyrenees, they HATE it when someone strange comes in their territory. I got her on purpose, believe me.

The local sheriffs have been very helpful, they know me, wave at me, say hello at the store. One of them lives two properties away from me on the same road. They can't protect me much. But they've responded promptly when I've called, and always call me back if I call them. They're the ones who insisted I get the ex parte NOW b/c they didn't want to see me in the hospital or worse.

What I'm counting on is the ex knows I will call 911 if he approaches me (I have) and the neighbors will call if they see him fiddling with the front gate (they have, a while back). He will lose his gun rights if he violates this RO, it will revert to a domestic protection order immediately. If he loves anything, he loves his guns, nuts as it is. But I'll take it.

My greatest hope . . . this sounds terrible, but it's true . . . is that he'll go to prison or end up dead
. I don't think he'll ever leave me alone unless that happens, as long as I'm sitting up here in "our little house in the woods". It's not "me" he's after, it's his fantasies. He's a real screwball. Now that he's so drug impaired, I barely recognize him. He was a jerk and VA before, but now it's like he's his crazy twin.

We'll see how he does this winter :D there's no work up here, his work now is cutting firewood cords and the forests will be shut down for the winter here in about . . . two weeks :lol: !! No one will hire him to take out their garbage. And I have said very little to anyone.

I guess I should let all this inform me that "things" may escalate. I should just give a howdy to the lead sheriff that this is what's going on. I'm already being very careful. NOT writing him back is in this same theme, it gives him nothing but silence to respond to.And of course there's always the Karma Bus. But hey, thanks for the concern, it feels good to write this out for myself too.

Bink
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let me quote some excerpts from BinkStink's HIPPODROME PROJECTOR diatribe entitled MEAN PEOPLE SUCK... the one she aimed at me... while obviously talking about HERSELF...

I will chide people or confront them in the right context. Like, when they ask for it or in consensual debate. I see a moral difference between challenging a person's words or behavior, and telling lies, rather an obvious point to most folks.

See, what I did, wasn't much more than call bullshit and confront her about the inconsistencies and evasions in her "story". She can't tell the difference, and is therefore, a dangerous person.

Finding her father after refusing to believe her sob story, ...

When we are talking ideas and honesty and integrity, which are much higher on the food chain than they can grasp, they are struggling, like a 13 year old terror of a kid, for a simple sense of SELF. The sense they do have is so fragile a breeze would dislodge it. It really is life and death, to them.

Worse, to be unaware that this is how you appear to others . . . not a victim at all, but a lunatic to be feared
. I imagine what a sad and joyless life it must be, to be her. And that each attempt to hurt or destroy other people (I am not the first, or last) puts another brick in the wall around her, isolating her further. Reinforcing her self loathing, and shame. The really sad part is that each time you attempt to hurt another person for your own pleasure, you are damning yourself to further pain. Because of your hazy lack of self to begin with, the acts of hatred appear to come from outside yourself, and you are victimized, over and over again without respite.
Sympathy for such a person is natural enough . . . but considering the damage they can and do cause others, the sympathy is misplaced.

Ironically it is sympathy that they demand, for they pity themselves above all other suffering.
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BinkStink, i'm calling you on YOUR lies and bullshit... and i'm going to continue to do it.. there are so many lies... and there's SOOOOOO much bullshit to call you on...this is just a sampling...

now I'm SURE... you're a pathological liar and a psychopath... you can rewrite history on your creepy little psycho blog... but you can't rewrite what you've written that is FOREVER in Google caches!!!...your bad!!!

stay tuned for more of BinkStink's lies and manipulations exposed... the truth is out there...

and more of it is coming soon to this blog...
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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

UH OH, BINKSTINK!..THE TRUTH REALLY IS OUT THERE!!!

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the truth really is out there... if you just look for it... i looked for it... and i found it... firstly... before anyone starts wagging their psychopath tongue and pointing their psychopath finger... i want to post this reminder...

bink_think
2010-02-17 06:41 am (UTC)
Confederaterebel! Mary Ella McGrannahan. I know you even when you leave out your ellipses.
as everyone can see... the creepy psychopath BinkStink had no problem with posting MY name on HER blog on 2/17/2010...

BinkStink crowed all over her blog that i could not report her to the nursing board... because i couldn't possibly have HER name.. and couldn't possibly get it... she has since removed those posts... along with the one in which she gleefully claimed my father was supposedly a KKK member... but i still have the post and code copied... and in her MEAN PEOPLE SUCK whine-a-thon, she alludes to what she said...
I know it is revenge for suggesting her father was a grand poohbah KKK even though that's probably true.
Finding her father after refusing to believe her sob story, and eventually banning her for endless name-calling twaddle was tantamount in her mind to justify fucking with my sole means of support.
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nasty BinkStink also felt it was perfectly OK for her post hateful spews like this to me...
2010-01-03 09:30 pm (UTC) .Are you flea infested?Are you running with red open sores from the vermin munching on your ankles?Do your dogs gasp and lay quietly on the ends of their chains, fur matted and eyes dim from starvation and worms?Does your hovel stink from the scarce kitty litter?Or are they shitting up the poor man's yard where you keep your hovel?Do you scoop it up out of some rare impulse to actually be grateful?If you do, where do you PUT the POO?In his garbage can?Or do you dry it and burn it for heat?-bink
i've always had a bit of a problem believing BinkStink's sob story... always... even back on the Catbox...it didn't add up...

if she had a house on 20 acres in Idaho... bought and paid for with the proceeds from a house she owned outright in California... then why was BinkStink soooooo broke she had to CON her fellow Catboxers out of money, as i pointed out in a previous post??... why didn't she just borrow money against the house and 20 acres... IF it was hers????...

then there was the claim that she was sitting there, scared to death of ATM... that she'd 'told the cops everything'... in exchange for an RO... didn't ring true... and tell them WHAT, exactly?... what could she tell them they didn't already know?...

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Psychopaths are often pathological liars... and they can often not remember a lie they told ten minutes ago, let alone things they said several years ago... and they seldom put their lies in print... but BinkStink... with her 5000 plus Narc posts on the Catbox... put LOTS OF LIES IN PRINT... LOTS...
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and she's also lied recently, of course... in print... here is an excerpt from her blog entry titled HOPE...
March 15, 2010
I was confronted with this choice myself. My ex husband ATM burned through my entire retirement fund and the proceeds from my house sale in California (which was considerable, I sold in in 2005). I was financially destroyed, and have forever lost ground because of it. He sicced his dogs on my animals and injured or killed them. He shot a laying hen with a RIFLE at point blank range because he wanted roast chicken. It blew her to smithereens. I was screaming at him to stop. The neighbors called the cops because they thought I was being killed, what with the rifle shots and all. He threatened to kill me uncountable times. And even today people, family included, do not GET IT, they continue to ask why I put up with it and did not
"leave sooner".
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Psychopaths forget the lies they've told... she's forgotten the lies she has previously told... above she says ... 'he threatened to kill me uncountable times'... .but here in a post from the Catbox....
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Posted 22 October 2008 - 09:00 PM
My ex abuser ATM was a threatener. He laid hands on me only a few times. Mostly he just threatened to hurt me, and a couple of times, when drunk and furious, to
kill me.
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which is it??... uncountable times???... or a couple of times???? Psychopaths continually rewrite history and lie-on-the-fly... and you can see it BinkStink rewriting it... right here... for maximum effect... in the post dated March 15, 2010... she calls ATM her ex-husband... but in posts on the Catbox... she told a different story...
We were never married ((((running out of the room to vomit in shame, excuse me, will I ever not want to barf when I tell this story :X ))))
and then there's this one...........
Posted 05 November 2008 - 10:23 PM
the judge PROMISED no more continuances after the trial date set in March. Sometimes I wonder if not having married him will be more of a life saver than I ever thought. In the context of the relationship, he refused to marry me. He would have had to divorce his first wife and pay child support (that was his reasoning). Pardon me while I puke from shame again :X .
not only does she say on the Catbox that they were 'never married'... he couldn't possibly be her 'ex husband'... because she claimed previously that he was still married to someone else!!!!!!
Posted 21 November 2008 - 01:54 PM
No one ever proposed to me. ATM just told me he knew he was "screwed" (his term for hopelessly in love with me) and moved right along into calling me his wife. We'd been dating for several weeks, perhaps eight. Probably less. Trouble was, he was still married to his first wife, who fled back to Japan seven years prior and refused to come back to the states (now I know why). He made two half hearted attempts to divorce her.
hmmmmmmm... but by 2009 BinkStink had rewritten history again...
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ATM has an ex, in Japan
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it's soooo hard to keep up with a Psychopath's lies!!. even when they're in print... geeez... and then there is the matter of ATM... and the alleged RESTRAINING ORDER she has against him...
Posted 10 July 2009 - 01:24
ATM made many, many attempts to get this and that from the house. My lawyer had put a stop to taking any of the marital (WAIT A MINUTE!!..in other posts she states CLEARLY that they WERE NEVER MARRIED!) assets. Didn't stop ATM from trying. Since I had a RO, he couldn't approach me without a sheriff being present. And the sheriffs had a copy of the decree from the lawyer so they wouldn't cooperate
Posted 20 January 2008 - 03:29 PM
ATM is grandiose and entitled and he thinks he is above the "law", and once I kicked him out went nuts trying to break the RO to get next to me.
Posted 23 August 2008 - 09:49 AM
I allowed my year long RO to lapse in July . . . ATM doesn't know where I live, and his attention span is so short I doubt he would successfully find me. It was a "civil restraining order", not a domestic protection order, so he was allowed to keep his firearms
then there is the matter of ATM supposedly being in prison...
Posted 05 November 2008 - 06:59 PM
That absolute farthead, who is in prison and will be for at least another year, is fomenting again
wait a minute!!!. in november of '08 he's in PRISON.. and will be for 'at least another year'... but in August of '08 her RO expired and she doesn't think he can find her anyway... wait... i thought he was in prison!!.

it's so hard to keep up with the LIES... let's try again...
Posted 15 May 2009 - 01:05 PM
I haven't seen his face or had any contact with him for two years, and he is safely incarcerated in prison due to his drug addiction but mostly stupidity and believing he is above the law. I've had time to heal a bit and see objectively what kind of situation I was in while I was with him (he is not in prison.....and he is VERY CLOSE TO WHERE SHE LIVES.. i'm sure she knows this)
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there's a bit of a problem with all of this... i searched Idaho court records... that
go back to 1995... and... there is no evidence that there was EVER a restraining order !!.. and... there is no evidence that ATM ever went to jail!!.. in fact... the case against him was DROPPED... couldn't find him in the Idaho Department of Corrections site... could find no evidence of him on the Washington State department of corrections site... or in the federal prisoner locator... looks like it was ALL A LIE!!


sorry BinkStink... .aka... Kimberly Anne Stewart... there is no record of you ever getting a restraining order against Timothy M. Haugen!!!! the court case against ATM aka Timothy M. Haugen was DISMISSED... there is no evidence to suggest that ATM went to 'prison'... not in the state of Idaho!!. and there is no record of a restraining order ever being issued to YOU... or anyone else...



State of Idaho vs. Timothy M Haugen
No hearings scheduled
Case: CR-2007-0000652
Magistrate Judge: Randall W. Robinson
Amount due: $0.00
Closed
Charges:
Violation Date
Charge
Citation
Disposition

06/15/2007
I37-2732(C)(1) Controlled Substance-possession Of Arresting Officer: Cordle, Guy, 2000
Finding: Dismissed By Prosecutor Disposition date: 06/28/2007 Fines/fees: $0.00
Register of actions:
Date

06/18/2007
New Case Filed - Felony

06/18/2007
Criminal Complaint

06/18/2007
Affidavit Of Probable Cause

06/18/2007
Order Determining Probable Cause After Arrest Without Warrant

06/18/2007
Hearing Scheduled (Arraignment 06/18/2007 01:00 PM)

06/18/2007
Statement of Defendant's Rights - Felony

06/18/2007
Hearing result for Arraignment held on 06/18/2007 01:00 PM: Arraignment / First Appearance

06/18/2007
Financial Statement And Order

06/18/2007
Defendant: Haugen, Timothy M Appearance John R Hathaway

06/18/2007
Hearing Scheduled (Preliminary 06/29/2007 11:00 AM)

06/18/2007
Order Of Commitment Pending Posting Of Bail

06/19/2007
Request For Discovery

06/28/2007
State's Discovery

06/28/2007
Motion To Dismiss

06/28/2007
Motion Granted

06/28/2007
Court Minutes

06/28/2007
Dismissed by Motion of the Prosecutor with hearing (I37-2732(C)(1) Controlled Substance-possession Of)

06/28/2007
Hearing result for Preliminary held on 06/29/2007 11:00 AM: Hearing Vacated

06/29/2007
Order Of Release From Custody

07/17/2007
Subpoena Returned

07/17/2007
Subpoena Returned

07/17/2007
Subpoena Returned

07/17/2007
Subpoena Returned
and as for the cabin and 20 acres...

1030 Hjalmar Johnson Road, Weippe, Idaho has only ONE OWNER listed... Mr. Timothy M. Haugen... and it STILL belongs to him!!!

am i STALKING you, BinkStink??.. NO!!. did i RESEARCH you?... YES... because you attacked me and called ME a liar, when i had always suspected that YOU were one!!!! and it turns out i was CORRECT...

all the information i have about you is a matter of public record... and a LOT of it, you made public yourself!!!!

there's GOLD in them thar' google caches!!!!!

Monday, March 15, 2010

NONE SO BLIND... AS BINKSTINK

Ole' BinkStink just can't help herself... despite me telling her NUMEROUS times to stay off my blogs... that if she didn't I was going to call her employer for using work computers to come here... she can't stop herself... she's a Narc who thinks the rules don't apply to her... she can't get that I wouldn't give a shit about her if she wasn't bashing me, bashing my friends and bashing abused women she doesn't even know...

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...she can't give it a rest ...because like all Narcs she HAS to be right and she HAS to have the last word...

she had to get in more kicks at ALL ABOUT HIM where I am a member... she's attacked the owner of the board - who didn't even know about BinkStink but is now fully aware who and what BinkStink is... and no, BinkStink... no one told this person -- all she had to do was read your insipid blog...

BinkStink is so mercenary that she honestly thinks Barbara is getting paid to moderate ALL ABOUT HIM as a full-time job... once again showing how fucking clueless she is about 'gubbermint benefits'... Barbara is permanently and painfully disabled... she can't have a full time job because she can't work... what she gets per week to offset costs at ALL ABOUT HIM is less than the price of a bag of dogfood and that's it... she hasn't even asked for more because that's who she is... and she's not begging for money like you did on the Catbox... no one could support herself and her children on that kind of money... and she's barely making it on disability bitch... as you so arrogantly pointed out that she's 'bound to her abuser' monetarily in one of your last spews... knock knock... the abuser in question is the father of her children - so who's the "bound" one here??? altruism doesn't compute with a psychopath... BinkStink always knows the price of everything and the value of NOTHING!!!
If that is how Barbara feels about her post as moderator, that my criticism was an attempt to undermine the one thing that keeps her afloat in this world, I apologize sincerely.
LOL!!! Frightened? More like disgusted... the members saw through her & called her a psychopath and a jealous narc... she knows nothing about how anyone feels or thinks... she only spews this shit to try to play martyr and make others look bad... she can't stand it when someone shines any light on her bullshit!!.. btw bitch - new studies show 1 in 4 people to be psychopathic... just read Dr. Hare or Dr. Babiak or POLITICAL PONEROLOGY... of course Bink doesn't want anyone to realize SHE'S one of the 'running amok'... she'd rather minimize psychopathic abuse along with her own!!!

BinkStink herself is bound... with her obsession to get her abusive Narc ass onto Our Place... she vacillates between love and hate for them... the board that won't have her... since losing her admin position and being banned from the Catbox she just can't move on... her hero Sam V. has at least 2 or more boards, people like Patricia Evans have boards... but no... sorry, pathetic BinkStink can't let it go... she stalks Our Place giving advice to members who don't even know who she is from her pitiful little blog... and needles her buddies who are on Our Place to PLEEEAAAASSSSEEE put in a 'good word' for her so she can get in... she can't even get herself a new identity and tone down the abusiveness long enough to sneak back in.... noooooo.... her Narcissistic injury won't allow it... BinkStink must conquer... BinkStink must reign supreme... she can't imagine that anyone like myself would be readily accepted on another board with a beloved moderator who was also banned from Our Place, too (for telling the TRUTH, mind you...)... and yet BinkStink's banned everywhere she goes... BEFORE she even attempts to sign up!!!!

tell us BinkStink... what happened to all the money from the "paid for cash" little bungalow you and ATM had up in them thar' hills??? how come you were whining to all your Catbox sisters about being broke and possibly butchering your pets then???


of course BinkStink develops typical Narc amnesia about the money she conned from members back when she was on the Catbox... in her mind somehow she's justified that by attacking this moderator... twisted psychopath thinking...

and she just 'can't get' how taking their money and running away in her WHHAAAMMMMBUUUULANCE and then turning-around and making fun of those same victims behind their backs with her asshole-buddy GoonGoddess was wrong... she 'just can't see it'.... so she still tries to ass-kiss the Our Place gang by saying she learned healing 'AT THEIR KNEES' while backstabbing them for permanently banning her pathological ass from there too... whatever tack a Narc thinks will work - they'll do... they just keep hoping no one sees they change direction every minute to get the maximum benefit from their spews...


no... BinkStink can't understand how any one could be altruistic enough to work a full-time job... yet write a book that made next to no money... and pay out professional webmasters to design and maintain a forum just for victims of Narcissists because this person knows what being a victim is... that's what kind of good-hearted person Lisa E. Scott is... but BinkStink can't possibly wrap her puny Narc brain about caring about the welfare of other victims... BinkStink even tries to parse what she thinks is Lisa's mission statement by saying Barbara is in violation of it... jealousy is an ugly thing BinkStink... and you're a nasty, transparent, irrevelant piece of chicken dung...

Bink also can't wrap her head around a disabled woman with kids who... because of her commitment to getting information out to other victims... moderates a board and runs a successful FREE blog that's gotten close to 1 MILLION HITS since it's inception... only because she wants to help others who have gone through what she went through her whole life... for FREE... no BinkStink has to give some phony apology about being so 'sorry' for trying to get Barbara fired from what she WRONGLY ASSUMED was Barbara's job at ALL ABOUT HIM... simply because this petty bitch can't deal with the fact that I narc'd her out to Providence Medical Center... Narcs can't understand doing something because you care and for free... so she apologizes yet leaves all the other hateful spew up...

...she can't get her head around that fact that neither Barbara or I really have anything to loose... oh yeah, almost forgot.... BinkStink - the long-distance-diagnostician - says Barbara's children (that she's never met and doesn't even know) have lots of 'emotional problems'... that's really depraved BinkStink... at least stick to the 5th grade bully tactics without attacking someone's children... or pets, in my case... but that's the Psychopath for you... anything and anyone is fair game... no remorse, no conscience...
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she goes so far as to ASSUME that we are shoving our 'no hope' understanding of our PERSONAL SITUATIONS down the throats of other victims... she can't understand that there are people out there that don't PROJECT their own sick hopey-codependent-you're a volunteer-you made the choice to be with an abuser brand of victim blaming and shaming on everyone... to the point that this Psychopath BinkStink thinks nothing of pushing a self-harmer over the edge to possibly self-harm permanently by implying the poor girl is just "looking for attention"...

poor BinkStink wants to 'gargle with Percocet' because someone speaks truth about their reality... do you dole out that looking for attention crap to your cancer patients at Providence, BinkStink??? (and for goodness sake stop teasing us and just do it)...


every time she sits down to blog... BinkStink reveals more of the nature of the Female Psychopath... the predator so in love with her own 'voice' she doesn't care who she hurts... or how many 'facts' she gets wrong... as long as BinkStink gets attention!!!! the Psycho-Drug of choice: ATTENTION!!!
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BinkStink... you're gonna get loads and loads of attention until you shut up and sit down and stop abusing the abused... I hear that
Cho from Virginia Tech and the psychos from Columbine had wacked out online journals just like you bitch!!!!